MYLA DALBESIO IS A MODEL, ARTIST AND WRITER
WHO PROJECTS THE RENAISSANCE REBELLION CELEBRATED BY COCO CHANEL WHEN
SHE DECLARED, "HOW MANY CARES ONE LOSES WHEN ONE DECIDES NOT TO BE
SOMETHING, BUT TO BE SOMEONE."
Myla is uncensored in her advocacy for individuals and the rejection of tokenism – and she celebrates all women, always. You can find her work in a recent zine of drawings titled “Studies of Ecstasy,” in a series of paintings for a summer show at Castor Gallery in New York, in an intermittent column for Elle.com called "Girl on Girl," and on her website.
WHAT IS YOUR EARLIEST MEMORY?
Being pushed in a stroller down an alley behind my house. Or jumping rope with my dad and sister, but I think I just remember that because there are photos of it. My dad was wearing a swimming cap and dancing, and we were calling him the funky chicken.
WHAT DO YOU DO BEST?
Cook. Give advice. Snuggle. I'm pretty good at blow jobs too.
IF YOU COULD RELIVE A DAY OF YOUR ADOLESCENCE, WHAT WOULD IT BE?
I don't want to do this. I think it would be too hard to deal with the emotions! Both my parents died, so bringing them back to life for a day would be too difficult. Although I would like to experience what it's like to just play from a child's point of view. I want to be able to tap into that level of imagination again.
A QUOTE YOU LOVE?
"If you want it you can get it for the rest of your life."
A SUNDAY MORNING SONG
A WINTER AFTERNOON SONG
A BEACH SONG
A FAVORITE INSTAGRAM POST
AN INSTAGRAM IMAGE YOU WISH YOU'D TAKEN
IF YOUR HOUSE WAS ON FIRE AND YOU COULD ONLY SAVE ONE PICTURE, WHAT WOULD IT BE?
This photo of my parents on one of their first dates
A POEM YOU LOVE?
I love this one from the subway! You know, from "Poetry in Motion". I feel cheesy about it because it's a subway poem, but it always reminds me of when I lived with my best friend Amanda and we cooked Thanksgiving dinner together. I love her so much, and I love cooking with her. Our mutual appreciation for food was part of what helped us build our friendship.
Like hot food
I love you
bread & cold
or, days later, after
when I want
WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL VULNERABLE?
Lack of communication.
WHAT ADVICE DO YOU WISH YOU COULD GIVE YOUR 12-YEAR-OLD SELF?
It will get easier. Keep making art. One day you'll move to a land of misfits and everyone will finally understand you. You will understand yourself. Also, try not to over-tweeze your eyebrows when you get to high school.
A FIGHT SCENE
The last half of the movie Carnage by Polanksi. So real. So expertly acted.
YOUR LOVE WHEN YOU WERE 14
My greatest love was dance and dance class.
I keep trying to find a good picture of me from
dance but haven't had any luck.
YOUR MOST PRECIOUS OBJECT
My dog Mountain
A SONG THAT MAKES YOU HAPPY
A SONG THAT REMINDS YOU OF AN EX
A SONG YOU'RE EMBARRASSED TO LOVE
I am over being embarrassed by loving music, but if I wasn't, it would be Britney Spears
WHAT DO YOU CONSIDER YOUR MOST ADMIRABLE VIRTUE?
I am honest (most of the time).
WHAT IS YOUR MOST IRRESISTIBLE VICE?
Bad food of all kinds and a good stiff cocktail.
WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE CURSE WORD?
WHICH OF YOUR FAMILY MEMBERS ARE YOU MOST SIMILAR TO? HOW?
My sisters and I all love eating, drinking and laughing.
WHAT IS THE BEST PART OF YOUR JOB?
As a model I travel a lot, which is both good and bad. At my core I am a homebody, so I am happiest to be in New York, but I love to experience new things and have gone so many places I never would have traveled to otherwise. I am very lucky to have had those opportunities. It also gives me a platform to interact with other women and help them feel more empowered! That is really a gift.
A PERFECT PICTURE
A RUNNING SONG
Always gives me a burst of energy when I am dragging in my run
A ROAD TRIP SONG
WHAT AMERICA IS TO YOU
YOUR FAVORITE BODY PART
I love my whole body
AN IMAGE THAT WAS ON YOUR WALL AS A TEENAGER
This exact poster when I was 10-11
A SCENE THAT MAKES YOU CRY
The last half of "Bridges of Madison County", which I just watched for the first time on a plane.
I cried like a baby. Specifically when Meryl Streep's character sees Clint Eastwood's character for the last
time in a rain storm. I also watched "Tree of Life" for the first time on a plane and cried the whole
time from beginning to end. I had to stop for and hour or two in the middle to get my shit together.
Planes always do that to me.
WHAT DO YOU LIKE LEAST ABOUT YOUR JOB?
5am call times? It is also tough to feel like you are not in control of the trajectory of your career. So much is left up to your agents, it can make you feel powerless.
WHAT JOB WOULD YOU PROBABLY BE DOING IT NOT THE ONE THAT YOU DO?
IF YOU COULD HAVE DINNER WITH ANYONE ALIVE, WHO WOULD IT BE?
Rihanna. Hilary Clinton. My boyfriend (my favorite dinner partner).
WHAT DO YOU HOPE YOUR LIFE WILL LOOK LIKE IN 20 YEARS?
Lots of kids and dogs and trips to our beach house.
WHERE YOU GREW UP
A SONG FROM THE FIRST CONCERT YOU WENT TO
A SONG YOU HAVE LISTENED TO 10 TIMES IN A ROW
I do this with all songs I love. The first one that comes to mind is Bauhaus - Bela Lugosi's Dead.
Once on a flight back from Europe I listened to Pet Sounds by the Beach Boys for eight hours straight.
THE LAST SONG YOU BOUGHT
I don't buy songs, I use Spotify. So maybe a Beatles song?
They're not on Spotify. I think I bought the Revolver album last.
WHAT WOULD YOUR TEENAGE SELF THINK OF YOUR LIFE?
I think she'd be pretty psyched.
HOW DO YOU DEFINE SUCCESS?
Doing what you love. Waking up happy.
WHAT DO YOU THINK HAPPENS WHEN WE DIE?
We become the earth and the sky and the sea and are reborn again into the world as energy.
WHY ARE GIRLS AND WOMEN SO CATTY WITH ONE ANOTHER?
Women historically have fewer opportunities than men so sociologically speaking we are forced into competition. I think there is an element of Darwinism in there too. Competing for the best so we can live the longest and give the most to our children.
A PORTFOLIO OF OTHER PEOPLES' ON THE SUBJECT OF WOMENS' BODIES
I love these Rineke Dijkstra portraits so much:
WHY IS FEMINIST A BAD WORD?
WHAT, IF ANYTHING, IS TOO SERIOUS TO BE JOKED ABOUT?
Everything can be joked about if done with tact, intelligence, and in the right context.
WHAT IS THE BEST RISK YOU'VE EVER TAKEN?
Moving to New York completely alone, without knowing anyone here.
WHAT DO YOU REGRET?
Wasting time on jealousy instead of focusing that energy on making myself better.
From "Uncle Boonmee Who Can Recall His Past Lives":
"After I'm dead, where should my spirit go to look for you? In heaven? Heaven is overrated. There is nothing there. Ghosts aren't attached to places, but to people."